HOW TO BE A BETTER HUSBAND

AS MEN WE SOMETIMES GET CAUGHT UP IN WORK AND TRYING TO PROVIDE FINANCIALLY FOR OUR WIVES AND CHILDREN AS WELL AS DIVIDING OUR TIME WITH FAMILY AND FRIENDS.  THIS CAN LEAD TO PROBLEMS IN A MARRIAGE AND CAN IN EXTREME CASES LEAD TO INFIDELITY AND EVEN DIVORCE.  BUT THERE ARE WAYS THAT WE CAN AVOID AND MINIMIZE THE STRESSES AND STRAINS PUT ON MARRIAGES THAT CAUSE THEM FALL APART.  OFTEN TIME WITH NO REAL UNDERSTANDING ON THE MAN'S PART AS TO WHAT WENT WRONG.

THE KEY TO SUCCESS IS RECOGNIZING WHEN THINGS SEEM TO NOT BE AS PEACHES AND CREAM AT HOME AS THEY USED TO BE.  IT IS AT THIS VERY MOMENT WHEN THE FIXING SHOULD BEGIN.  OF COURSE OVER THE YEARS YOU WILL STOP DOING A FEW OR MANY OF THE THINGS YOU DID IN THE BEGINING OF THE RELATIONSHIP TO SWEEP HER OFF OF HER FEET AND GET HER TO MARRY YOU.  WHAT COUPLE HASN'T EXPERIENCED THAT IN SOME FORM OR ANOTHER.  BUT WHAT YOU NEED TO DO IS REALIZE THAT THOSE ARE THE THINGS THAT MAY HAVE BEEN OF MUCH IMPORTANCE TO YOUR WIFE AND BRINGING BACK A FEW OF THOSE THINGS MAY GET YOU OUT OF THE DOG HOUSE.

REMEMBER BACK WHEN YOU FIRST MET WHEN LOVE WAS FRESH AND NEW AND YOU WOULD COME WITH FLOWERS FOR NO REASON OR CALL JUST TO SAY YOU LOVED HER FOR NO REASON.  THE BUBBLE BATHS AND EXPENSIVE NIGHTS OUT.  AFTER YEARS OF BEING TOGETHER YOU CAN ONLY EXPECT THOSE THINGS TO CHANGE BUT THEY DONT NECESSARILY HAVE TO GO AWAY.  SURE YOU WORK MORE HOURS THAN YOU DID THEN.  SURE YOU HAVE KIDS THAT YOU DIDN'T HAVE THEN.  SURE YOU ARE NOT THE YOUNG MAN YOU WERE THEN, BUT YOU CAN STILL HAVE THOSE THINGS IN MODERATION.

HOW DO YOU THINK SHE WOULD FEEL IF SHE CAME HOME FROM WORK AND YOU HAD LEFT WORK EARLY TO SURPRISE HER WITH DINNER ON THE TABLE SO THAT SHE DOESNT HAVE TO RUSH HOME TO COOK.  WHAT WOULD BE HER REACTION TO RECEIVING FLOWERS AT THE OFFICE WITH A CARD THAT SAYS "JUST THINKING OF YOU AND WANTED TO MAKE ALL YOU CO-WORKER ENVIOUS.  I BET SHE WOULD SPEND THE REST OF HER DAY ON CLOUD NINE ALL THE WHILE THINKING OF ALL THE NAUGHTY THINGS YOU TWO WILL BE DOING ONCE SHE GOT HOME.

SO HERE ARE A FEW SUGGESTIONS TO GET THE SPICE AND THE LOVE BACK IN A MARRIAGE THAT IS SLOWLY FALLING DOWN.

• CALL HER FROM TIME TO TIME JUST TO LET HER KNOW SHE WAS ON YOUR  MIND.
• COMPLIMENT HER ON HER NEW HAIR STYLE OR NEW DRESS.
• WHEN SHE WALKS PAST YOU AND THERE NO SMILE JUST TAP HER ON THE SHOULDER AND KISS HER ON THE CHEEK TO GET A SMILE OUT OF HER.
• FLOWERS ALWAYS WORK.
• TRY COMING HOME EARLY SOMETIMES IF YOU ARE NORMALLY WORKING LONG HOURS.
• WHEN YOU ARE IN THE BED WATCHING TV, RUB HER FEET OR MASSAGE HER SHOULDERS OR BACK.
• SURPRISE HER WITH A GET TOGETHER WITH A FEW OF HER FRIENDS SHE HASN'T SEEN IN A WHILE.
• HAVE YOUR PARENTS, CLOSE FRIENDS, OR RELATIVES WATCH THE KIDS AT LEAST TWICE A MONTH SO THAT YOU TWO CAN HAVE SOME TOGETHER TIME EITHER OUT ON A DATE OR AT HOME ALONE.
• CLEAN UP AROUND THE HOUSE NOW AND THEN WITHOUT HER HAVING TO ASK FOR HELP WHEN THE KIDS MESS IT UP.
• BRING HER BREAKFAST IN BED.
• ASK HER DAILY HOW HER DAY WAS EVEN IF IT WAS HER DAY OFF.
• TAKE THE KIDS OUT NOW AND THEN TO GIVE HER SOME TIME TO HERSELF.
• WHEN SHE SEEMS IN A BAD MOOD AS IF THERE IS SOMETHING YOU CAN DO TO MAKE HER FEEL BETTER.
• TAKE HER ON A VACATION.

THIS IS ONLY A FEW OF THE THINGS THAT CAN BE DONE TO IMPROVE A MARRIAGE AND MAKE YOU A BETTER HUSBAND.  EVEN THOUGH YOU MAY THINK THERE IS NOTHING WRONG THERE IS ALWAYS ROOM FOR IMPROVEMENT.  DONT ALLOW THE LITTLE THINGS TO TURN INTO VERY BIG THINGS WHEN THE SOLUTIONS ARE RIGHT AT YOUR FINGERTIPS. 

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